However painful it may be, the triangular relationship is less painful than a decision that would end it in one way or the other. That is precisely why it has a tendency to perpetuate itself and to reproduce itself if it has collapsed. Rivalry is intolerable, but the absence of rivalry is even more intolerable. It brings the subject up against nothingness. That is why the subject makes every effort to persevere or begin again, often relying on the undisclosed complicity of partners who are aiming for similar goals. (Things Hidden, p. 361)